Toxic Wha Whaaat?

Toxic Peeps whoa nelly! They’re around indeed. I know every single one of us has encountered an example of this personality choice in our lives. This post is all about how to spot them and a few tips for handling them. On a side note it is interesting how quickly the world has embraced the labelling of female toxic personalities with a trendy name but the male equivalent hasn’t shown up. Hmm interesting indeed. Hilarious and predictable as well. I feel for you if your name is the dreaded K word. I think it is actually a beautiful name.

Ok now onto toxic people. I really want to state that if you are partaking in the act of labelling anyone anything then you best be looking into the mirror long and hard to work on those traits that potentially may be present within yourself as well and if they are present, then recognition of the fact that they are holding you back as well can be very healing. I have after all been witness to more then a single occasion when one was eagerly dispensing labels so as to avoid looking at their own souls reflection. We all do it sometimes, it’s part of being human. That said it is also something to grow upwards and out of in order to sustain our long term well being for a start.

The point of our living is not to create pain and suffering and most of us will agree with that. We are not born to poke one another in the proverbial heart with daggers of deceit or ill intent. Do babies do this? Nope. They are fresh from beyond the veil and they recognize truth on a more complete level, having yet to be coloured with the words, experiences and singularly at times disconnected memories of life experience.

So how do we recognize toxic folks when they enter into our lives. There are a few ways. One is how tired you feel after being around them or even when you are in their presence. If you have been cruising along all day and then meet someone and after talking to them for a few minutes you feel tired or heavy then you need to know that you are being leeched off of. You are at the time of that happening being a “feeder” line to a toxic individual.

Toxic isn’t even the best word for it really, although it really does accurately encapsulate the spoken words and often deeds of an individual exhibiting these tendencies. These types are the ones building an army against a great injustice. While that can happen at times with legitimacy and injustice really can occur in this world. A toxic person you will find, is always in an endless loop of this type of situation and is never willing to admit any error whatsoever. The toxic part is most accurately a descriptor towards the actions this personality type will go to in order to maintain illusion.

Which swings around to the need to protect oneself when dealing with this type of person. A lot of people espouse the “cut them out of your life” approach and while this can be temporarily effective there are enough of this type that you will find yourself facing the same situation over and over again until you learn to truly respect and value yourself. When you decide to no longer feel obligated to do things for the person because you have been manipulated into believing you “should” do them. Hang on there though because there are things that we “should” be doing also in this life. Things like loving one another and supporting our loved ones and respecting the joyful innocence of a child to name a few examples. Either way however, when we do things for others we really ought to be coming from a place of joyful love not a restrictive falsely superimposed sense of obligation. That makes sense right?

A toxic person is very wounded and is so caught up in that wound whenever and wherever it came from. Which ironically is in the end always ourselves alone. They do deserve love and sympathy and kindness and care they simply forgot how to access those things legitimately and prefer the path of manipulation which leads them down the rabbit hole of never being satisfied. Hence the infinite drama cycle. How tiring that must be. Which is also why someone who isn’t wrapped up in that cycle feels so exhausted after a short time interacting with this type. Their “normal” is so far from our own that our systems are thrown into a loop de loop of sorts.

This isn’t to say that injustice never happens and that there are times when we don’t need help or protection from actual threats. It is to say that those times are perceived differently once we are aware of the finite essences of energy and what is really going on behind the screen as it were.

So how do we deal with these types? There are several tools. If the individual is at arms distance then by all means keep them there or withdraw from your encounters with them. If they are more deeply a part of our lives then things become a bit more delicate as the laws of karma begin to activate with a bit more fervor.

Back to how to deal with it. Set boundaries. Be strong enough and secure enough within yourself to set boundaries. Don’t allow the manipulation to cross those boundaries and if it does then you may have no choice but to cease communication. I am however a firm believer that every single effort must be taken in sincerity before we decide to cut people out of our lives for the eternal cost of this can be great.

Now I am not saying to set princess boundaries that make you feel superior on any level because that my dear one is it’s own trap and cycle. I am saying set boundaries that feel healthy and productive. For example if an individual is constantly at your home and you feel obliged to welcome them because of your own kindness and caring to their suffering and you find yourself uncomfortable asking them to not come over or to leave then that falls on you. You have to be able to respect yourself enough to do what brings peace and joy to your life.

It is an inevitable consequence that if you allow a toxic person to walk into and over your life that you will pay a price for it. The price will likely be slanderous on some level depending on how close you have allowed them. It’s somewhat ironic how a toxic person will only find you have purpose for the time you are fulfilling their need for energy but that as soon as a healthy boundary is placed then you become the reasoning and story for them to seek a new “feeder line” of human or in some cases humans.. The more the merrier for maintaining a base level of what could be construed as happiness in this case.

Which is why boundaries are so important. One can interact with and be around toxic people. You simply have to be secure in who you are and your own approach to living. Do you yourself talk as the toxic individual does? Or do you find solutions and take steps towards enjoying the stars on a dark night while you wait for the sunrise, as opposed to lamenting the darkness of the night not even thinking of the sunrise because all you can see is how dark it is. Would you act as the individual is acting? Would you or have you ever even spoken about another the way the toxic individual is? Then if you take a step back and look at any situation a toxic person is presenting to you as fact, does it feel legitimate in your heart or is there a hesitancy? An energetic hiccup which is a huge neon sign to the truth. This right there is the best guide to the truth there is. Forget all the two sides to every story nonsense because there are infinite sides to every story yet the pure essence of the truth is found within the heart alone. It can be witnessed in the eyes but it is felt in the heart.

So here are some more tools for you that have helped me when being around toxic people because I always see their true self with empathy and compassion. But toxic people can sting like a bee without floating like a butterfly. So if you are going to a place that you feel may be toxic or full of toxic people then prepare the space before your arrival. Call in your guides, supports and angels and ask them to clear the space for your arrival and protection while you are present. You can also visualize a mirror bubble around you that reflects things back to the source of them and when doing this you can set the intention to allow only that of a higher vibrational frequency to enter. Once around a toxic person or environment then you have the chance to practice awareness of what is really going on. Once you start to do this so many things will make sense and you will find yourself not so easily manipulated by the tall tales or shallow soundings of a person or environment like this.

The energetic gameplay will no longer be as effective as it has in the past and you will subsequently feel less tired around the individual or place if you do this. This is your sign that you are no longer energetically being fed off of. Yay you! Congratulations.

Once you have set healthy boundaries these types will often fade away because they can’t get from you what they want any longer so the game as it is, well it’s simply no fun anymore. In this approach you are allowing them to be who they are which is divinely inspired for them on their path but you also and most importantly allow yourself to be who you are. You allow yourself to respect yourself and that is a huge part of why each and every one of us is here. To remember who we are and we cannot even begin to do this if we hold more love for others or the opinions or perspectives of others over the love we hold for ourselves.

When we truly love ourselves we don’t want to feel low and we don’t want to allow those that choose to operate in the lower frequencies to essentially steal from us. But lets not forget my dear ones that talk is cheap and the true test of anything is in the doing. So get to doing my dears! Protect yourself today from toxicity and feel the benefits immediately. Enjoy the lighter feeling. Embrace happiness because you can, no matter what anyone may think you should be doing because if it is anything other then following your heart and embracing joy then ever so respectfully they can go back to their corner and keep sucking on their precious dried up bitter lemon. I don’t mind if that’s what they want. I only know it’s not what I want for me.